What do elderly parents owe their children? What can they do to improve relationships with adult children as health declines and they need more assistance? If you are an aging parent:
- Learn about the developmental changes of middle age and the problems that adult children face today.
- Cooperate with adult children when help is needed.
- Make it as easy as possible for adult children to help. It may mean being more flexible to prevent frustration of adult children. For example, the fragile 95-year-old can permit people other than her exhausted 75-year-old daughter to do the household tasks—even if she prefers her daughter to do them rather than hire someone else.
- Accept help graciously. Rely on others and let them rely on you. This opens the way for the adult child to help with the elderly parent. This way the aging parent permits the adult child to grow to fullest maturity.
- Communicate openly. Build a climate where feelings can be shared and solutions can be reached together.
- Share with adult children what it means to age. You may even help your adult children to accept their own aging.
Families that view dependence needs as normal and varying across the life span—from infancy through old age—create a climate for the development of interdependence. An intergenerational strength with the potential for supportiveness by more generations is created. In mutual dependency the old will not attempt to manipulate or control the behavior of the young nor will the younger generation attempt to take control or treat their parents as helpless. With mutual dependency, the aging parent and the adult child can each maintain self-esteem.
Contact Pure Home Care Services at (586) 293-2457 today! If you live in West Bloomfield Township or the surrounding area, we can help you care for your loved ones.